At some point, every relationship reaches a point where the spark fades.
You find you’re no longer as attracted to your partner. You’re spending less time together.
The pressures of work and life, in general, have taken over. There’s no longer time for going on dates, long nights spent together, or even talking the once you once did.
Instead, it’s a matter of a few rushed words in the morning before rushing off to work. Dinner is spent listening to the kids, and evening is for finishing up everything you need to do for the next day, or you both do things individually.
But quality time spent together? Sadly, that falls to the bottom of your to-do list.
Many people their relationship is fading when it first begins. But knowing what to do or how to change it is beyond their scope of experience. They resign themselves to the fact that this is how their life is meant to be and they don’t try to change their relationship or make it better.
If your relationship becomes more like a commitment — a drudge — than a loving, happy situation, life sinks into a rut you can’t escape.
Step back and look at this dilemma from a different perspective. Imagine if your job became the same day in and day out. Imagine if every aspect of your life was precisely the same day to day.
How long would this go on before you had enough and started making changes? Probably not take very long.
The same should be true for your relationships. You should not settle for a comfortable relationship where you just exist together in the same house.
One of the first and easiest ways to start rekindling your romance is start going on dates again.
I know, it sounds silly if you’ve been in a relationship for years. But try it. You’ll see the impact it can have on your relationship.
Decide on a certain number of dates a month.
Maybe you can only start with one or two a month. That’s fine. Just start somewhere. Find a babysitter for the kids. Forget about everything else going on in your life. This is your time for you and your partner.
The rest of the world shouldn’t exist.
Pick a favorite place that both of you enjoy and go there. Try a romantic dinner together. Or a movie. The possibilities are endless. It’s not about what you’re doing; it’s about spending time with your partner and reconnecting.
Continue to make dates and stick to them. Gradually you’ll start adding in more dates, and your relationship will be stronger for it.
Take a second honeymoon.
Now, this doesn’t mean you have to spend an outrageous amount and head off to some tropical island. You can honeymoon anywhere. Maybe it’s simply a week in a hotel. Maybe you like camping and want to spend some time together in the woods. It’s all a matter of preference. You can honeymoon anywhere your heart desires.
Leave your work behind. Find someone reliable to watch the kids. Don’t take anything that will distract you from your partner.
Go and enjoy each other’s company. It’s a refreshing way to add new life to your relationship. Remember the closeness and passion you felt when you first started a relationship with this person.
Whatever you do, don’t give up.
Relationships take time and commitment. And we believe in you.